“You cannot add any time to your life by worrying about it.”Matthew 6:27 (ERV)
Recently I’ve realised a feeling of exhaustion within me. You ever come to a point where you became so tired of yourself? Yes, yourself! For me, this was due to constantly worrying about everything. This seriously messes with my peace of mind and happiness. Admittedly I still struggle with this but here is what I have begun to make a daily and conscious effort:
GIVing IT TO GOD IN PRAYER – WITH GENUINE FAITH
Worry reflects a lack of faith in God and fear which we all fall into at some point. I sometimes forget that nothing is ever too big or too small for God to handle. Recently though, a true let go and let God moment happened for me and it reassured how great God is. It’s so easy to get caught up in our lives, planning and hustling to get things done or to go places. We forget that God has already planned out our lives and taken care of the very situation we fret over. I realize whenever I make a decided effort to just leave things in the hands of God, it always works out for the best, whether I like it or not. It is mostly when we reflect on things after they have transpired, do we realize, “Damn! If that didn’t pan out the way it did, I would have never been able to do or reap the benefits of such and such.”
The next time you feel that worry welling up inside you, take a moment, breath, submit it to God in prayer and LET IT BE!
LEARNing TO DISCONNECT/ DETACH FROM
I had a terribly tough time doing this at my previous job. I often carried home the daily stresses of my job by complaining about what went wrong that day and lamenting about how unhappy I was there. Although it was a toxic place and I don’t encourage anyone to remain in a toxic situation, looking back, I realised that I could have better handled the way I responded to or dealt with my environment. Due to my past habits, I spent many days exhausted, stressed, not eating on time and conversely indulging way too much in junk food! My health suffered in the process and I had no energy and motivation to do anything!
At my current job, I have been actively making the effort to detach myself from work once I have left and I keep complaining minimal. I have also set boundaries for myself to avoid excessively working over hours – something I did 95% of my work week at my last job. Having a life apart from your job is so imperative. In being more intentional about maintaining this, when I come home from work now, even on a really tough and tiring day, I am able to still find the zeal to workout. Oh and I make sure to take my lunch hour on time now too! 😉 – Y’all please eat on time for the sake of your digestive system! Making these seemingly little decisions have had a great positive impact on my mental health and overall wellness.
BEing TRULY PRESENT
This is about making the CHOICE to not only disconnect from your stresses but to actually be present in the things that bring you happiness and relaxation.
One weekend about 2 months ago, I had a few leisurely activities planned in celebration of my friend’s birthday. I told myself that I would totally and completely take work out of my mind and not bring it up unless I was asked about it – and even if I was asked, I won’t go on lamenting about it in detail. Y’AAAAALLLL! BEST. DECISION. EVERRR! I was so intentional about this that I literally forgot about work until Sunday came around. I truly had not mentioned work ONE TIME! We went on a hike, then to the beach and I just totally immersed myself in every moment of it. Being surrounded by nature truly refuels me. In that moment, I didn’t allow myself to get in an anxious state of mind worrying about how much time we had left while being there. I didn’t allow myself to worry about what work was pending at the start of the coming week. I. JUST. LIVED!
So if you worry and get anxious often like me, I challenge you to try one day, or weekend, to simply free your mind and live. Don’t think about work, your bills, drama, nothing. BE FREE AND BE HAPPY and then come back in the comments and let me know how you felt LOL! NO REGRETS!
DESTROYing THE CONTROL FREAK
This is and extension of my very first point. There are some things that we have control over and should take control of by doing our part in that situation. HOWEVER, there are also a plethora of things we have absolutely no control over. Many times we ignore this fact and in the peak of things not going our way, we allow ourselves to excessively stress over the situation. Again, guilty and NOT proud! The only thing we can really do in situations like these is to let go and let God handle it all. Restore your peace of mind by understanding and accepting that you have no control of this particular thing but you gave your best! It is so pointless when we worry and try to force things to move the way we want while totally being oblivious to the fact that we have no control over it? What a waste of energy!
Like much of the advice content on my blog, these things are a work in progress – at least for me. So don’t be too hard on yourself if you don’t master it right away! Think about these things as you start the new week and allow your peace of mind to be restored gradually.
What do you do for stress management / how do you avoid over stressing? Share in the comments below and help a friend!
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As always, to God’s blessings, prosperity, faith, happiness and love!
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