I’m fed up! That’s really what it is to be honest . .
Lately I’ve been really trying to be mindful about securing my happiness and mental health. I’m fed up of misconceptions and judgement. I’m tired of fears, miscommunications, should and could haves, overthinking, apologizing and explaining myself too much to others and just taking life way too seriously.
The truth is, much of the content I put out serves as it’s own dose of self-motivation to help me through my own life. Funny enough it was the beginning of that process which spawned the inception of this blog. I was fresh out of university and feeling completely lost. Doubting myself and my true purpose as I set foot into that weird transition period of early 20s, finishing my degree and entering adulthood.
Today, things are better but I am still learning and discovering so much. However, through my own growth and maturity I am realizing that I am exhausted by overly caring about every little thing. It stresses me out and robs me of my happiness. . . and for what? So how about not caring so much? I did’t say don’t care at all! I’ve tried the “I don’t care about anything” attitude and it’s just too impractical and doesn’t align with the empathetic nature I possess. Also, I just end up looking like a jerk.
Realistically though, it’s about balance. It isn’t that we shouldn’t care about anything or anyone but rather that we shift our cares towards things that are more important. Seriously! It’s a waste of energy allowing others and trivial situations, that we have no control over, to get us all worked up. In those moments I attempt the following:
1. STOP & EVALUATE
Using that trigger moment to stop and truly question “Is this even that serious?” can set the right perspective. Many times we may just be having a bad day and everything is riding our nerves. Other times, it could be due to some deeper suppressed issue that is triggering our negative reactions. It can also be a case of overthinking. Do not stupidly waste your energy and trade your happiness for stress.
2. EXPRESS HOW YOU FEEL
Please note that this is a follow up to the prior point! LOL! Sometimes it really is better to keep your mouth shut. However, it isn’t fun living with contention and bottled up issues. If you have identified that the situation is really THAT serious or triggered by deeper issues, then express how you feel in a way that allows for effective communication and/ or resolution and closure. Life is too short to be living in anger because of the past. Talk it out!
These things take time but I believe that with greater consciousness and a shift in attitude, it is possible. A great book that has helped me through this is “The Sublte Art of Not Giving A F***” by Mark Manson. This book truly opened my eyes on some key realities of life. I promise, you won’t regret it!
I hope my life experiences continue to motivate and inspire you to never give up on life and remind you that it’s okay to be human 🙂
Were you ever in a place where you just cared too much? How did you deal with it for the sake of your own happiness? Leave a comment below, like and share this post! Let’s keep it real and help each other out! ❤
As always, to God’s blessings, prosperity, faith, happiness and love!